Within minutes, the class turned from nitpicking all the downsides to closing prisons, to thinking up creative, innovative solutions. He had his students think of all the ways to end the prison system within a certain number of years. Schwartz uses a class example to illustrate this point. Believing a solution pays the way to solution.” When you believe something can be done, your mind will find the ways to do it. Thinking It’s Possible Makes It Soīelieving Allows You to See the Routes to Success So, ask questions, be curious, and as Schwartz says, be human. People like you more the more they get to talk about themselves. This works absolute wonders in interviews, coffee dates, romantic dating, and with family. You should aim to let your chit-chat partner say more than you do.
“There is no surer way to get people to like you than to encourage them to talk to you.” I always try to remember the Pygmalion Effect: People will rise to your expectations (so set them high!).
Give everyone the benefit of the doubt, have patience, and remember that most people are good deep down. Schwartz advises you to treat people as well as you can, whether you’re in a leadership position or all the way at the bottom of the totem pole. Now, I just have to bring that to everything I do. I woke up, bantered with him, and shared a laugh, instead of shoving money and hustling away (I blame New York for encouraging my tendency to slip past people interactions as quickly as possible). I had no need to hurry the farmer, who was acting as the cashier, was staring straight into my eyes and smiling. When I went up to pay, I realized no one was behind me.
The other day, I was at a farm picking up some apples and a pumpkin. Ok, maybe we’re getting to the meat and potatoes finally.Īfter the preamble, designed I suppose to pump you up, Schwartz finally gets to the more interesting parts of his 302-page book.īelow, you’ll find some of the key lessons (of MANY packed into that monster): Thanks to Tim Ferriss’s fear setting, I’m good. Putting me to sleep - thanks for the positive thinking reminder, but back to binge-watching Shark Tank I go(and I’ll probably learn more from that show than from your tired advice).īut I promised myself I’d finish this book…īuild confidence and destroy fear. I’m pretty much a personal development connoisseur at this point, and I expected more out of this top-rated, had-to-wait-on-the-library-waiting-list-for-this-50+year-old book.Īnd…the advice in the beginning pages is just what you expect. When I finally sat down to read this classic, I was unimpressed.
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